“…girls are less interested in leadership than boys.”
Is that so? Being a girl I remember even when I was young I wanted to be a leader. I wanted to inspire people, I wanted to be Mother Teresa, I wanted to be Gandhi, I wanted to be Martin Luther, I wanted to be the president of United States of America (even though I have never lived in USA), and I wanted to be a superhero amongst other things. At the same time I wanted to be liked, I wanted to have friends; I wanted to be a “pleasant” person–whatever that means. For the longest time I was called bossy and pushy and stubborn because I know what I wanted and I was very clear about it. I am at a point in my life now where I don’t really care if someone thinks I am “bossy” but as a young girl this word haunted me in my sleep. Being the oldest of three children at home I was always expected to take a leadership position, there were no questions about it, but in school it was a big no-no. Girls were meant to be likable beings that cared about how they looked more than they cared about being a leader. And I was one of those who cared about both. Every time I wanted to take a leadership position in an activity that involved both boys and girls, instantly I was told I am being bossy and that I need to “cool it”. It’s been couple of years since this has bothered me but it has left its scars on me.
I love #BanBossy campaign. Words hold so much meaning than we think. Tell a girl that she is bossy and she will be scared to be leader for the fear of not being liked. We need to tell our children that they could be leaders, doesn’t matter if they are boys or girls. On my way to work couple of days I heard a very good piece about why we should ban bossy on the radio by Matt Gallowy. Click here to listen to it. In this interview we have people on both side of the argument, on that supports the campaign, and one who supports the initiative but not the campaign. There is another very profound B word that females are called in workplaces and schools and it’s looked down on and is banned in many workplaces. Bossy should be another B word that is banned. Who we are going to achieve is by getting EVERYONE involved. I want men and women to all be standing behind this campaign and support it.
Celebrities are now also starting to stand behind this initiative, and here is what they have to say.
I’m not bossy. I’m the boss.